Yelling is a common parenting behavior, but it is not an effective way to discipline children. Yelling can make children feel scared, angry, and resentful. It can also damage the parent-child relationship.

If you want to stop yelling at your child, the first step is to understand why you yell. Are you feeling stressed, frustrated, or angry? Are you trying to get your child’s attention? Are you trying to control their behavior?

Once you understand why you yell, you can start to develop strategies to stop. Here are a few tips:

• Take a deep breath. When you feel yourself starting to get angry, take a few deep breaths. This will help you to calm down and think more clearly.
• Walk away. If you can, walk away from the situation and give yourself some time to cool down.
• Use positive reinforcement. When your child behaves the way you want them to, praise them and give them positive attention. This will help them to learn that good behavior is rewarded.
• Set clear expectations. Let your child know what you expect of them and be consistent in your enforcement of those expectations.
• Be a role model. Children learn by watching the adults in their lives. If you want your child to stop yelling, be sure to model calm and respectful behavior yourself.
• Identify your triggers. What are the things that make you most likely to yell? Once you know your triggers, you can start to avoid them or develop strategies to cope with them.
• Take care of yourself. When you are feeling stressed or tired, you are more likely to yell. Make sure to get enough sleep, eat healthy foods, and exercise regularly.
• Ask for help. If you are struggling to stop yelling, don’t be afraid to ask for help.

Stop yelling and start parenting effectively. It is possible to change your behavior and build a better relationship with your child. If you are struggling to stop yelling on your own, there are resources available to help you. The Parent Help Center is a parent-training resource that can teach you how exactly how to discipline your child without any yelling involved.